Many times along our journey in this life, we experiences a lot of
sufferings, hurt and problems. Sometimes, problems can indirectly
bring about a deepening of our own wisdom and compassion for others.
However, some got completely swamped under the problems that they
failed to tackle their problems squarely.
Remember that life is a mixture of both good and bad circumstances,
and that there are many others who have similar-or worse- problems
with just the same issues that we do. Below are some suggested steps
which we can do on our way to healing process.
1) Acknowledge the problem and your pain; open
to being with it; you don't have to approve of pain, but to best handle
it, you need to experience it fully so that you are in a position
to let go of it.
2) Realize that
pain--along with pleasure--is a fundamental aspect of this world that
we live in: it's a package deal--they come together.
3) Understand that lots and lots of folks have
it as bad, if not much worse, than you do with exactly the same problem.
4) Muster up a little (or as much as you can)
empathy for all those other folks; wish that somehow you could help
5) Develop the wish to take on their sufferings
with this problem through a kind of transference. Imagine that your
very real pain now somehow includes a portion (if even only a tiny
one) of their sufferings and thereby relieves them of some of their
6) Visualize that, as well as taking on some
of their suffering, you also give them some of your happiness to help
them as well. You can imagine their problems coming into your heart
as thick black smoke, and your goodwill streaming out to them as pleasant
7) You should feel that the black smoke also
helps to utterly destroy your own confusion and unhealthy relationships
with your problem. This should lead to a feeling of joy.
8) If you would like, you can coordinate this
visualisation and imagination with your breath. Breathe in their problems
and breathe out your happiness. Breathe naturally throughout.
9) Continue with this for a
while until you feel a sense of completion.
It is a wonderful practice and can help balance out the personality.
And don't worry, it won't bite! It may seem practically ludicrous
to go asking for more trouble on top of all that one already has,
but due to the interconnected nature of the world at physical and
metaphysical levels, this practice helps to open the heart and can
literally contribute to physical and emotional recovery.